It is such an honor when a friend asks you to be involved in their wedding in any sort of way, and it’s so exciting to get to be with them on their wedding day! Aside from all the fun, being a bridesmaid is also a chance for you to serve your friend and love them well. I’ve seen a lot of bridal parties, and there are a few things I’ve noticed that bridesmaids can do to love and serve their friends well on their wedding day.
Be On Time
This one is huge. One of the first things that can stress out a bride is if the timeline for the wedding starts to fall behind. Don’t let the reason for that be you! If the bride has asked you to be at the hotel to get ready at 7:00 am for hair and makeup, set a bunch of alarm clocks and be there!
Read the Situation
If you’re a bridesmaid, presumably you’re one of the closest friends of the bride, so use that close friendship to keep a tab on how she’s feeling throughout the day. If you think she’ll be most happy chatting, be a listening ear. If you think she needs a laugh, be the comedian of your friend group! If you think she just wants to relax and just be present in the moment, turn on some calming music and keep conversations low. And if you aren’t quite sure how she’s feeling, simply ask!
Keep Problems Away
Ahh, I have seen so many times when a bridesmaid or well-meaning family member walks into the room while the bride is having her makeup done and says, “The caterer hasn’t showed up yet and they were supposed to be here fifteen minutes ago!” or, “The baker almost dropped the cake on the way in, but luckily we saved it!” or, “Someone forgot to bring that confetti you wanted sprinkled around the center pieces, so it’s not going to happen.” I’m gonna be straight up here, if there is a problem, it is your job as a bridesmaid to try and fix it, and fix it without telling the bride about it! Obviously, if something catastrophic happens and she needs to know, tell her! But keep things on a need-to-know basis, the bride shouldn’t have to worry about anything on her wedding day.
Those are my top three tips! Share this with your bridesmaids, and let me know what you would add to the list!