The way Griffin and I met and started dating is a little unique. Ok, it’s actually pretty crazy when you get right down to it. But that’s not the story I'm telling right now. What you need to know for this story, is that when we first started dating, I was living in Cincinnati, and Griffin was living in Nashville.
As far as long-distance relationships go, we were pretty lucky that the distance between us was only a four hour car ride. Four hours is short enough to visit each other on the weekends, which we did almost every weekend for the six months we dated. But you obviously can’t hang out every day when you live four hours away from someone. And for us, that was actually a good thing.
When you first start dating someone, there’s a lot of excitement (at least there should be, if there isn’t, girl we need to talk!) and it’s easy to want to spend every free moment you have with that person. We totally felt that, and had we lived in the same city, we probably would have spent every evening cooking meals together and marathoning Netflix, which is what many of our evenings looking like these days.
But there’s something about the time we spent dating in different cities that I will always cherish, and I'm convinced that thing is talking on the phone!
Obviously, nothing can substitute for having real life human interaction face to face, but when Griffin and I first started dating, if we wanted to spend time together, we had to actually talk. We could talk about anything really, and we did. But we weren’t able to fall back on snuggling and watching a movie and just filling empty space with the presence of another human. If we wanted to build a relationship and spend time investing in that every day, then we had to talk to each other and that was a really beautiful thing.
I can honestly say that I don’t think our relationship would have progressed at the speed it did if it weren’t for all those late night phone calls, talking about everything from our faith, to friends, to our hopes for the future. Without that carved out time to simply talk every night, there’s no way we would have gotten to know each other as well as we did as quickly as we did.
On top of that, Griffin would mail me a card almost every week while we were dating, and who doesn’t love getting good mail?!? There was always so much excitement leading up to the weekends, because I knew I was going to get to see Griffin and hang out with him, and since that wasn’t the case all the time, I truly valued it.
If there’s a certain someone who’s caught your eye from afar, and you’re worried that the distance will be hard, you’re right, it will be hard. But just because something is hard, doesn’t mean it’s not worth doing. In fact, some of the things that are most “worth it” in our lives, are the hardest things we do.
Would you ever date someone long distance, or do you think that's totally crazy?